Unravelling Marriages

LOREM IPSUM He was thinking of having a paternity test done. The cost would be $179. The reason so high I am sure, is because two people would have to have their cheek swabbed. I thought about his dilemma, and asked if any of the Father’s siblings had done a DNA test. The answer was yes, with Ancestry.com.  A Paternity test will only tell if this person IS or IS NOT the Father. If the answer is yes he is, then it worked, but if it is NO, then the question still remains, is it this other person you thought might be the Father and he is deceased. I suggested that the best way to approach it was to have the $69 Ancestry.com  test and the reasons are numerous:

If the young man comes up as a relative of the siblings of the Father who signed his birth certificate, case over, home free. That man is his father…but…

If the young man shows up with no relation to the other siblings, then there is another father out there and by doing the Ancestry.com test, some of the relatives of the TRUE Father may have had their DNA tested and he may find he has half-siblings he knew nothing about.  Or if not, he may have all the way up to 5th cousins show up on his results of people he doesn’t really know, but would offer some clues that could be very useful.

That will be where the research comes in …  checking these out to see if you can find the ancestor you have in common.

Glad to say that he has ordered his Ancestry.com report and I have offered to help him analyze the results and guide him through it.

When you take that first step, you have taken the steps to FREE yourself from the baggage you have carried around since the first time you heard the rumor. “The Truth Will Set You Free.”

Then comes more steps and we will travel through this with him and I will post here. Good Luck Young Man.

Results are in …

Upon receiving the DNA report, I logged into the clients account and sure enough the man he had thought was his Father all his life was in fact not his biological father.  Our decision to do a DNA test rather than a Paternity test was the right decision.  This enabled me to reverse engineer, as I like to call it, his ancestry to locate his biological father.

The report showed tht he had half-siblings and a number of cousins.  It was not cut and dry.  Through many hours of research and following through on leads that were to no avail, I happened upon what appeared to be his family.  This case was somewhat unique in that his biological father had been adopted.  When he contacted the half siblings showing up on the DNA, they wanted nothing to do him. As it turned out, after many hours of research, this young man had known the parents of his biological father from church.  They had said that he was adopted, but in fact the truth was that it was during the war that he was concieved and a marriage didn’t take place before the father had to go off to war, so after the baby was born he was adopted by the woman’s new husband and presented to the church goers as being adopted by both husband and wife.  That was a big break in this case.  

While the circumstances did not turn out to be what everyone wanted, he did give the young man a sense of why he felt the way he did growing up and expained animosities that had existed between his Mother and him and his brother.